Thursday, 22 March 2007

Farewell... magnificent woman, loving mom.

Thank you all for your well wishes. I am truly truly truly touched.

Mom passed away peacefully about 2 hours ago. Her brain was too swollen and there was nothing to be done. We managed to transport her body back to our home before we pull the plug. I am sure she would want it this way.

Just before the paramedics removed the air-tube, I managed to do something that she always wanted from me. I handed her a cup of tea, and Julia handed her a cup of tea too. I want to let mom know that in her eyes, Julia is now my wife. I am sure the mom would have enjoyed that cup of tea. She will surely bless us as she watches from heaven.

It was peaceful, after the tea ceremony, as I was still kneeling beside her, she went away almost immediately as soon as the tube was removed.

Life has indeed changed. As I walked around my house, I can finally see the gigantic effort of hers to put the whole house in order. From all the cleaning she has done… to the little decorations here and there. I realised my mom is a very artistic person.

Mom,

I will do my very best to maintain this house the way it is, I will not disappoint you. I will look after father. I will look after my brother and sis. Bless me with the strength that I need. You’ve done a magnificent job raising 3 of us out of nothing. We are proud of you. You are the best mom we could ever ask for. Thank you for being there for the 29 years I’ve been alive. And I will live according to your teaching for the rest of it.

Farewell… magnificent woman, loving mom.

57 comments:

angel said...

Dear Zewt,

2 hours ago, I was just thinking about what you are going thru'... and now, I read this...
With deepest sympathies to you & your family, Zewt...

kyh said...

Same words. Be strong!!!

Take good care of your wife, family and your life. That's the greatest gift to repay all your mum's efforts in raising u up.

Winn said...

zewt,it must b hard.pls accept my condolence.

goodbye auntie..

Scorpe said...

Dear Zewt,

Our heartfelt condolence to you and your family. Pls take care and be strong, Bro.

A LETTER FROM HEAVEN
by Ruth Ann Mahaffey

To my dearest family,
some things I'd like to say.
But first of all, to let you know,
that I arrived okay.

Please do not be unhappy
just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I am with you
every morning, noon and night.

When you think of my life on earth,
and all those loving years,
Because you are only human,
they are bound to bring you tears.

But do not be afraid to cry
it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers,
unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you
all that God has planned.
If I was to tell you ,
you wouldn't understand.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you
and many hills to climb,
But I know that you can do it,
by taking one day at a time.

It was always my philosophy
and I'd like it for you too,
that as you give unto the world,
the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody
who's in sorrow and in pain,
Then you can say to God at night
"my day was not in vain."

And now I am contented
that my life was worthwhile.
I did my part to lend a hand,
and made some people smile.

So if you meet somebody
who is sad and feeling low,
Just lend a hand to pick him up,
as on your way you go.

When you're walking down the street
and you've got me on your mind,
I'm walking in your footsteps
only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go
from that body to be free.
Remember you're not going
you're coming here to me.

mob1900 said...

My condolence on hearing your loss.
My mom passed away under the same circumstances, stroke and hemorrhage 12 years ago. I could relate what you and family has been going through.

Have faith and be brave for everyone, it will get better I assure you.

L B said...

Deepest condolences, zewt. Sorry to hear of your loss..

may said...

so sorry to hear about your dearest mom, zewt. my deepest condolences to you and your loved ones.

mama bok said...

My deepest condolences...Zewt! may you find comfort in knowing that your mom is in a better place.

Theodwyn said...

My sympathies and condolences zewt. Be strong....

zeroimpact said...

My condolences
You are strong
Take care...

ka..t said...

I am so, so sorry for your loss, zewt. *hugs*

Huei said...

Zewt, you're very strong, and I am sure your mum is very proud of you.
You've fulfilled her wish, she's at peace now.
Stay strong, keep her effort she put into her house and into the family, and there's nothing more she can wish for.

:)

*hugz*

Lin Peh said...

Sorry to hear that. My deepest condolence. Take care.

Charmaine said...

I heard about it yesterday and didn't know how to express my condolences. But i am sure your mummy is very touched by how much you appreciate her. She's in a good place now, so live a good life for her.

I'm so sorry for your loss

C e | e S t i N a said...

I'm really sorry to hear this....God bless you and your family...take care...

Economist said...

Take care bro.......

Remember her as she was...the GREAT WOMAN she will always be.......

Condolences to you and your family...

Ai Leen said...

I am truly sorry for your loss :( Your words are v. touching and sincere, I'm sure your mom knows you love her very much and is always proud of you.

Chin up and live life to the fullest. Make your mom proud :)

Kenny Mah said...

You won't disappoint your mom, bro. I think all you've expressed here has already proven that.

My deepest condolences.

mistipurple said...

my deepest condolences to you and your family. take care.

s'ays said...

so sorry for your loss, zewt. my condolences to you & your family.

take care.

gRaCe said...

i'm so sorry for your lost Zewt.. stay strong...i'll be praying for you..

God has bigger and better plans for your mother..and i'm sure she's up in Heaven taking care of you and your family..

my deepest condolences to you and your family..

Kata Tak Nak said...

My condolences to you and family.

PurpLe~MuShRooM said...

Zewt, so sorry for your loss. As i have said in my SMS, your Mum is in Heaven now. Don't worry.
And now, it's time for you to make her proud! Stay strong buddy!

Anonymous said...

hey man, sorry to hear this.. my deepest condolences to u and ur family..

Anonymous said...

hey man, sorry to hear this.. my deepest condolences to u and ur family..

sengkor said...

anon is me

Allied said...

Zewt,
Not sure if you are from KL.
Please sms me your add,
I would like to pay my last respect, to a woman who brought up a thinking son. One she should be very proud of.
my number + 6 016 674 0333

Tony
with heartfelt condolences from the Yew family

5xmom.com said...

My condolences....

I am sure your mom is most happy to see Julia taking care of you now. And vice versa.

Rabbit said...

deepest condolences to u and your family.

Stay strong and take care.

vegemaster said...

dear zewt,

people come and go..the most important thing is that we remember what they did that has changed our lives..

Remember everything you mom has ever done for you and she shall remain alive in your heart forever..

Live life to the fullest~

King's wife said...

My deepest condolences to you and your family, Zewt.

Ckyeo said...

Live your life to the max, that makes people who cared bout you proud.

Fang Fang said...

Oh dear Alvern, i am sure your mum is resting in peace now at a better place. Take good care of your family, as well as yourself. God will always with you.

The Angel said...

Take good care of your family, as well as yourself. God will always with you.

ducky said...

dont know you, read this from angel, very well said, take care and god bless.

Dienasty said...

God bless you Zewt. Your mother must have been a great woman. Make her proud.

rinnah said...

I don't personally know you, came over from Angel's blog. I am very touched by your dedications to your mum, you truly are a good son.

My deepest sympathies and condolences to you and your family.

Lydia Teh said...

Dear zewt, I can't help crying as I read your short but touching tribute to your mum. My deepest condolences to you and yours. You will cry, you will hurt, you will grieve but time will heal.

Lilia Edlina said...

Hi Zewt.

Happened to reach here through cosmic-abyss's and lotsofcravings's blogs.

I am truly sorry for your loss. It wont be easy, definitely. But please know one thing, she had ascended to a better place.

It is better to have love lost, than never to have loved at all. You take care.

Pookyma said...

Sorry to hear that man....my condolence to her...

Calvin's Wife said...

*hugs*

NURAINA A SAMAD said...

zewt,

my deepest condolence...
i know, zewt, i know... what it is like to lose a mom.

take care..May she rest in peace. May God Bless her.

-Princess Shin- said...

Hey Zewt,
I'm so sorry to hear about this. My deepest condolences. I know this muz be a terrible moment for you and I wont even try to understand how you feel. Just hang in there okay? And remember to take care of yourself. Must remember to eat and sleep ya.

Hope you're feeling better!

Cirnelle said...

Deeply sorry for your loss (and deepest apologies for the audacity to ask you why you were sad).

Happysurfer said...

This is a wonderful tribute to your mom. So so sorry about your loss, Zewt.

bongkersz said...

please accept my condolence, sorry about your loss bro. god bless.

Anonymous said...

Zewt,
your mum would have been proud of you.
Be well & strong. Keep on the journey.
Peace.

Chen said...

Take care Zewt.
sorry to hear about your loss :(
My deepest condolences to you and your beloved ones and your family.

kak maria said...

My deepest condolences to you & your family.

Fiona the confusing girl... said...

Dear bro Zewt.

Like i said i known your blogs thru lydia teh blogs..Reading your post really make my heart felt twist.Although i don't know you, but i felt proud coz u can express ur feeling thru blogs..I'm sure ur mom will be in peace now..
My heartiest condolence to u and ur family..

Kelvin Hon said...

deepest condolence to you and your family. Please take care yourself.

Regards,
Kelvin Hon
SME Banking

k.t.x said...

my sincere and deepest condolences 2 u + everyone else in the family.

LaSh said...

I am very sorry to read about your loss, I got to your blog through links of other bloggers about the 2 posts you've done for your mom.

I am sure she will be proud of reading those if she could, and know how much she meant to you and your family...

I couldn't help but shed some tears while reading both posts...

My deepest condolences.

LaSh

Josette said...

Hi zewt,

When I came to your blog, I did not expect to read about this. I'm very sorry. It's hard to lose someone that we love very much! But, your mom is in heaven now. God is looking after her and she's looking after you. Pray for her.

And thank you very much for dropping by my blog. I wish you to take care of yourself.

pumpkin said...

I'm really sorry about your loss. Continue to live life to the fullest.. your mum will be proud of you.

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